Helping Families Know How to Support Their Loved Ones with Substance Abuse
Maneely Consulting, Inc.
Parents of drug/ alcohol addicted loved ones: Learn how to support your child and free yourself.
Are you a parent who...
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Has and adult child struggling through addiction to drugs or alcohol?
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Is scared your child is going to die?
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Don't know if you are helping them or hurting them?
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Has tried so many treatments and programs and still nothing seems to be working?
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Has found yourself in a life that is just as painful and chaotic as your addicted child?
THEN MAYBE IT'S TIME TO TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT
In 12 short weeks, you can change your life and stop supporting your child in their potential death.
Addiction of a loved one can make you feel:
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Isolated
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Scared
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Lonely
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Angry
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Frustrated
Often times parents find themselves spending YEARS and thousands of dollars learning how to deal with an addict/alcoholic. But YOU don't have.
In 12 weeks, you will learn what it can take parents a lifetime to learn on their own
Want to know how? Schedule a free strategy session and get started truly supporting your loved one
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN...
YOU'RE IN DENIAL?
YOU'RE FINANCING THEIR DEATH
THEY ARE MANIPULATING YOU AND YOU'RE BUYING INTO IT?
YOU'RE DOING MORE HARM THAN GOOD?
YOU COULD BE DOING ALL OF THESE THINGS AND NOT EVEN KNOW IT.
IF YOU WANT TO STOP FACILITATING YOUR CHILD'S DEATH, THEN YOU NEED TO:
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Break your denial and start trusting your instincts when something tells you things are "off"
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Protect yourself and your child financially and not give them money that may ultimately kill them.
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Set boundaries that you feel good about and get results and allows your child to start dealing with consequences that will help them become willing to get the help they need.
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Stop stepping in and preventing your child from dealing with their own mess ultimately supporting their drug abuse.
IN 12 WEEKS: YOU CAN START PARTICIPATING IN THEIR RESCUE INSTEAD OF PREVENTING IT.
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Have you tried going to Google for help and advice, only to be left with more questions and fear?
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Are you frustrated when you start looking through all those treatment centers that are available and have no idea who to trust, where to send them, and how do you know if they will be able to really help or not?
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Are you tired of asking for people's advice only to be met with judgement and even more confusion?
These are the kinds of things that leave parents frozen with fear and dread and simply not knowing what to do or where to turn. So they do the best they can with what they know.
But now it's time to try some different strategies and find the right resources for your child
TO FIND OUT HOW: SCHEDULE A FREE STRATEGY CALL
In 12 weeks, we cover these areas where parents lose their child and lose themselves. You will learn strategies that will give you relief and help you sleep at night again.
Denial
The most common form of denial is blaming other people for their child’s behavior and drug use. If you think it's just the people they are hanging around with and if they would just stay away from certain people they wouldn't be using drugs. If you've even moved your kid away trying to give them a fresh start, and you see the same thing happening, it's because it isn't the other people that's the problem. The other most common type of denial is parents think their kid isn’t an addict at all. They accidently got themselves addicted to drugs. If we lock them up in rehab whether they want to go or not, they will be fine once they get the drugs out of their system. Your denial is killing them.
Boundaries
It's important to set boundaries. It's even more important to defend those boundaries. Having your child know you won't defend your own boundaries allows them to progressively increase their unacceptable behavior. Before you know it, you are doing things you never imagined yourself doing and being put into dangerous situations you never envisioned yourself dealing with. You start accepting behaviors because "at least they aren't dead and I know they are safe." But they are doing drugs in your house and stealing money from your purse or wallet.You don't have to turn your back on your child and you can stay connected with them through clear boundaries.
Financial
Money is needed to buy drugs. Anytime you are giving them money, helping them pay their bills, paying their rent, buying them cigarettes, food, bailing them out of jail, etc., you are cosigning their drug use. Your first instincts reading that sentence may have been to defend your actions. If that is the case, you are potentially killing your child and you may need guidance to understand how to truly support your child. There are ways to help financially and there are things you need to do to protect yourself and your child.
Guilt and Shame
You are being manipulated. Addicts know how to pull heartstrings to get what they want. They may be blaming you, they may be blaming their friends, maybe a traumatic situation that happened to them when they were young. You may have even found yourself cosigning that bull s**t because part of you understands why they are using. Maybe you even blame yourself for their addiction. And now all you want is to fix the problem you think you created. And it's exhausting and not working, and things are just getting worse. Because it is not your problem to fix. It is imperative you take care of your own guilt and shame so they can't use it against you.
Good Parent Syndrome
Swooping in at the last minute before they really get to suffer the full weight of their consequences isn’t helpful. Bailing them out of jail for the second, third, fourth time is not helpful. Giving them a nice warm bed because they got kicked out of their apartment or lost their house only tells them they can do whatever they want because you are going to bail them out and not make them suffer too much. Your child does not have confidence in themselves right now. They feel like a failure and like they can't do anything right. You swooping in rescuing them unintentionally confirms their belief. They are strong, they are smart, they can figure it out on their own.
Break Free
Parents end up losing their own autonomy to their addicted children. Your whole world gets consumed by your addicted child. Chaos and destruction will weigh you down and make you feel imprisoned. Your work performance may start suffering. I've watched parents give up careers trying to save their child. You will always worry about your child, but you don't have to give your life up trying to protect them. Missing work so you can either track them down or stay home and watch them isn't a productive use of your time. You can't control them, and you have to learn how to free yourself from their chaos and destruction.