When you have a loved one that is dealing with addiction/substance abuse, they are not the person you know them to be. They can hurt us deeply by some of their actions. They manipulate, they lie, they steal, they may even become physically violent towards you.
You have every right to be angry with the way they have treated you and the things they may have done.
Holding onto that anger for long periods of time can make you become bitter and hateful, and also mistrusting not only towards addicts/alcoholics, but to everyone around you.
If you are angry, know that it is justified but for your sake, it's time to release that anger and make sure they don't have the capabilities of continuing to mistreat you. The sad truth is, we have to make choices for ourselves too. We can't continue to put ourselves in situations where they CAN manipulate, lie, steal, or be physically abusive with us.
We teach people how to treat us.
You don't have to turn your back on them, but you can keep them at a distance so they can't continue to hurt you. You don't have to leave permanently if that is your situation, but you may have to leave temporarily as long as they are hurting you.
Remember this: If they are being emotionally or physically abusive, staying won't make things better, it escalates. It will continue to get worse.
If you are angry, it's time to take action and do something about it.
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