Updated: May 18, 2019
I was making one of my necklaces today that said “Dreamer” on it. I picked that word because I was looking around at my life for that moment and realized I had dreams today. Dreams of what I was to do with my life, dreams about who I want to become, dreams about how I want my life to go.
I have ambitions today.
But being a dreamer has not always been the case. Back in my High School and early 20’s, I truly believed I would never live to see 30. I didn’t work very hard at anything because I didn’t really see the point. I was merely floating through my life just waiting for it to end one way or another. Depressing isn’t it.
That was my life though, just floating through it. People would always ask me what I wanted to do with my life and I always got that surge of frustration because I didn’t have a great answer. I didn’t really have an answer at all.
I had no future.
I’ll skip the dramatic stories for the moment and fast forward to the present and my reflection for the day of what it really means to be a dreamer, and what it has taken for me to get here. It means I have goals, aspirations, intentions, and most of all, I HAVE A LIFE. A life full of real possibilities. A life full of hopes and dreams.
I have a direction I want to take with my life.
I am fully aware that life and the universe may take me somewhere else but today, I have a direction. I realize that sometimes I think all this must be too good to be true and I wait for that shoe to drop. I also realize I really have to commit to the direction I want my life to take me because there are always going to be those outside influences that will try and derail me. Outside influences often consisting of other people who don’t believe in me or don’t really “get it.” Other people that don’t want me to succeed because of their own limited thinking.
I have inside influences as well that try to derail my progress usually consisting of those little pesky voices in my head that fill me full of fear, insecurities, and tell me I don’t deserve this and I am not good enough.
But, I am going to continue to remember and believe I am a dreamer.
To the family members that have loved ones in addiction:
There will always be outside influences trying to control your life, most of all the person that has an addiction. You may feel like you have no choice but to give up your life, your dreams, your aspirations in order to help protect them. YOU DON’T. You don’t have to wait for them to get better to start living your life again.
The question is, how do you not lose yourself in their addiction? Outside influences will always be there to try to derail you. What do you want your life to be like? You can’t control what the addict does, but this is your story, your journey, your life. KEEP DREAMING.
Jennifer Maneely has spent the last eight years investing in leadership programs, self-awareness, and relationship with families through communication. Drawing on her experience as a leadership consultant, she uses an executive coaching approach to working with parents. She has dedicated her life and her business to not only addicts in need but also understanding and supporting the needs of the family members. Being a recovering addict herself, she is trained in what it takes for an addict to get their life back and has spent years teaching family members how to respond to the addicts to prevent the families from unintentionally supporting the addict in their self-sabotage and destructive patterns of behaviors. Want to stop supporting your loved one in their addiction? Set up a free strategy call