When you have a loved one with substance abuse, it can be hard to remember to smile. It can cause a host of mental and physical ailments even for the families because it's so stressful watching someone we care about destroying their lives and the possibility of them unintentionally or intentionally killing themselves seems to be around every corner.
And stress can change us. It can rewire our brains and our thought patterns of fear and doubt will start increasing exponentially as we let the stress overtake us. It's why you dread every phone call, it's why you dread the holidays, it's why you dread even them coming over to the house.
You can find yourself dreading your own life and causing yourself an immense amount of grief and agony. You change into a person you don't recognize anymore. This is not how you intended your life to go.
So how do you change it back? How do you get your life back? How do you learn how to live while the person you love the most is killing themselves?
You can start by smiling again. I know, it seems so simple yet it can be so difficult. It's like we feel as long as the person we love the most is destroying themselves, we don't deserve to smile. THAT'S BULLSHIT!!!!
There is not much you can do about their life, but there is something you can do about yours. And you deserve to smile. You deserve to laugh. You deserve to cry and there will be plenty of tears to go around but in between the tears, SMILE.
Someone taught me this trick, and you know what, it works. Take a pen and put it horizontal in your mouth and force yourself to smile. Do it 10-20 minutes a day. It literally tricks and rewires your brain into thinking you are smiling thus lifting the weight of dread off of your chest. Try it...try it for one week. I promise if you do this, you will find yourself naturally smiling more, you will start finding joy again, you will start getting your life back. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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