Our loved ones with substance abuse can often bring the worst out in us. Go on, admit it, it's true. They can really piss us off, hurt us, make us feel like horrible people and before we know it, we are big balls of angry, resentful, guilty bombs ready to explode at the drop of a hat. "Just wait till the next time they come through these doors!!!"
Most of our reactivity comes from not knowing how else to act, because we don't know what to expect so everytime there is a new crisis, we just react to the situation instead of knowing how to respond.
But what if you did know what to expect and how to respond. It would probably be a lot less emotional and you wouldn't get so many surprises along the way.
What if I told you there were ways to stop being so angry, fearful, hurt, resentful? What if I told you it was possible to sleep again at night, not jump at every phone call you get, and you didn't have to grieve a person that is still alive?
But it comes with knowing HOW to RESPOND to situations. You can't always predict the future, but surprisingly, addiction is predictable when you know what you are looking for. And if you know what you are looking for, you can start responding to situations instead of reacting.
And by responding to situations, knowing what to expect, sleeping at night again, and not grieving a person that is still alive will actually help you take back ownership of your life again WHILE you are helping and supporting them in the best most loving way possible because you are now responding.
This is possible...but it is not possible trying to do it alone. Why? Because as predictable as addiction may be, it takes someone that can tell you how to predict it and guide you into knowing how to handle things when they happen.
If you want your life back, maybe it's time to reach out for help. Maybe it's even time to reach out to me as this is what I do for a living. If you are not ready or don't understand why me, you can just keep following along. Sign up for the blogs, read my book, go to my YouTube Channel and get to know me. And in the process of saving their life, we may just end up saving yours too.