Updated: May 18, 2019
NO...we have a society that has created this impression that if you want the best, you just pay more and you will get you the results you want. If you want to best education for your kid, you pay for it. If you want the best car, you go out and buy it. The best house, the best whatever, etc....
The mentality I see most often with parents is "that less expensive rehab didn't work so if I pay more, then that will totally fix my kid". Next thing you know, you have spent thousands of dollars...AND THEY ARE STILL FREAKING USING...WTF.
Money doesn't matter when it comes to addiction.
YOU can't pay someone to "FIX" them. It doesn't work. The addict has to decide when they are ready and desperate enough to become willing to put in the work it takes to get clean and more importantly, stay clean.
You can't throw money at this problem and make it go away. I'm sorry. On the parents side, this is the journey of YOUR personal work and self discoveries.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to get the help you need to handle all of this.
You don't know what you don't know. This is now about your own self-care. Let someone else deal with them. I know that's hard but you can't save them.
Don't confuse this with you shouldn't send your kid to rehab at all. That's not what I'm saying. My mom paid for both of my rehabs and I don't feel like it was a waste. The first time, I learned a lot and got a lot of good information that I needed for when I did relapse and she paid for my second and final time.
She made it very clear on the second go around it was her absolute and final time helping me and only if I was truly ready. I was at that point. So it would be hypocritical of me to say don't send your kid to rehab. But they should want to go and be ready to go if you are going to invest a bunch of money.
Remember, there is a difference between spending money and investing money.
If you want to find out if you are spending or investing, get on a call with me now!!
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Jennifer Maneely has spent the last eight years investing in leadership programs, self-awareness, and relationship with families through communication. Drawing on her experience as a leadership consultant, she uses an executive coaching approach to working with parents. She has dedicated her life and her business to not only addicts in need but also understanding and supporting the needs of the family members. Being a recovering addict herself, she is trained in what it takes for an addict to get their life back and has spent years teaching family members how to respond to the addicts to prevent the families from unintentionally supporting the addict in their self-sabotage and destructive patterns of behaviors. Want to stop supporting your loved one in their addiction? Set up a free strategy call