We don't think anymore like we used to, and that's the problem

Updated: Dec 3, 2019

The amount of inputs we receive daily due to the firestorm and barrage of data keeps us almost in a trance as we walk around life. We don't reflect on the meaning of things like we used to before the technology boom.


There are so many positives this internet connectedness has given us. But one thing is clear, we are fundamentally changing the way we process our emotions...or don't process our emotions.


But Jen, what does this have to do with substance abuse? EVERYTHING! Substance abuse/addiction is the symptom of unprocessed emotions. It's what happens when we don't take time out for ourselves to really deal with what is going on. We can easily distract ourselves.


I can't tell you how many times I have picked up my cell phone to simply look at the time and two hours later on Facebook I finally put the phone down...AND I FORGOT TO LOOK AT THE TIME!


Ok but Jen, what does this have to do with me? If you have a loved one with substance abuse...EVERYTHING!


Your loved one is not the only one with unprocessed emotions. Most of the time, when it comes to having a loved one with substance abuse, we try to just live our lives and then something chaotic happens that we feel like we have to deal with even though we don't have time to be dealing with other people's shit, and we slap some bandaids on the problem and move on.


We don't think much about the impacts it had on us. We simply pray that was the thing that was going to fix all the problems so we could be done with it. We don't honor the emotions behind it, including the fear, anger, frustration, etc...We throw some "tough love" in there and set them straight and move on. Or at least we try to.


But we didn't really move on. And over time, all those unprocessed emotions causes us to lose ourselves, and we just become a big ball of an over-reactive person we don't even recognize anymore.


So, if you have a loved one with substance abuse, and you are becoming a person you don't even recognize anymore, maybe it's time to do something different. Maybe it's time to find yourself again, maybe it's time to process those unprocessed emotions. BUT, here's the trick, we can't do it by ourselves. We need a third party to help us shine a light on what's going on.


But Jen, your young, what the heck do you know about this stuff.

1. When you have a loved one with substance abuse, you are in a world that is not easy to understand. But I have been in this world dealing with myself and learning how to deal with others for a good couple of decades. I know what it takes to change.


2. You have one, maybe two or three loved ones with substance abuse you are having to manage. I have dealt with hundreds if not thousands over the years. I've had more practice than any one person should. My whole life is boundaries, is tough love, is dealing with manipulation, getting lied to, stolen from, etc.


3. I have dedicated my life to helping people who want to recover, and those who support them.


This is what I do.

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