Updated: May 18, 2019
Several different programs use the 12-step process. It's a self-awareness tool that helps break things down into a manageable and simple (not easy) process meant to bring self-awareness to the person suffering through addiction.
People that suffer through addiction are running from themselves. This is why it doesn't matter much on the upbringing of the person. Many addicts have a difficult upbringing. Many addicts have a good upbringing.
Personally, I had a great upbringing. I had a lot of opportunities that most people could only dream of. I had a good childhood, supportive, in a good church going family. I went to private school, tried to go to college, but my addiction took hold when I left the home. You could be the best parents or spouse in the world and it wouldn't matter. I chose to run away from myself.
Self-awareness is a lifelong journey. And it can be overwhelming, painful, and scary at times. The 12-steps are designed in such a way to help a person going through them to handle the process. The steps are in a order for a reason, to help prepare the person going through the process to be able to handle facing themselves.
Yes, traditionally the 12-step process is used with people suffering through a particular addiction problem. Could be drugs, alcohol, sex, food, etc. However, it can be used by anyone. The key is to have someone experienced go through the process with you. The reason is because no matter who you are, you still have to face yourself. And that can be painful and potentially destructive if you don't know how to handle the information you find out about yourself. No we are not monsters deep inside, but we all have issues, very human issues.
Jennifer Maneely has spent the last eight years investing in leadership programs, self-awareness, and relationship with families through communication. Drawing on her experience as a leadership consultant, she uses an executive coaching approach to working with parents. She has dedicated her life and her business to not only addicts in need but also understanding and supporting the needs of the family members. Being a recovering addict herself, she is trained in what it takes for an addict to get their life back and has spent years teaching family members how to respond to the addicts to prevent the families from unintentionally supporting the addict in their self-sabotage and destructive patterns of behaviors. Want to stop supporting your loved one in their addiction? Set up a free strategy call