Updated: Dec 3, 2019
Having a loved one with substance abuse can keep the family and friends in a great deal of fear. Our fear can imprison our minds just as much as the substances imprison theirs.
The fear can change the way we respond to situations, the way we think about our reality, and make us feel completely out of control.
The fear itself can become an addiction for us as it seems to be the only way we feel in control. Many times it starts off as a subconscious nuisance. We brush off our situation with things like
I don't have time to deal with this stuff.
They are just going to have to figure it out.
It's that boyfriend/girlfriend they are with, when they get away from them, everything will be ok.
They say they don't have a problem so maybe they don't and I'm overreacting.
This is the crisis that is going to change everything, they have to wake up now and see what they are doing to themselves.
And a thousand other things we tell ourselves in order to not have to really confront the things we are afraid of as it pertains to our loved ones. But, when we dive into what we are really afraid of, the empowerment and peace of mind can start happening.
I'm not saying it's easy, and when I have to do this for myself, I don't do this alone as it takes someone else to really show me what I am afraid of. Otherwise, I simply stay in my subconscious thought patterns that keep me away from the pain. We are hardwired to avoid pain. But diving into that fear and pain can actually set us free.
Both for the loved one with substance abuse and their support networks, it's when we confront our fears, we become the person we have always meant to be. We can't sit around and wait for our loved ones to get better. We have to learn how to continue to live our best lives and facing our fears is where the freedom is.
If you don't like the way you are living your life right now and you don't like the situation you are in, change it.
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