The Unbreakable Boundaries Program
A Program to Help Set and Defend Supportive Boundaries with Your Addicted Loved One
An online program that explains the "how's" and "why's" of boundary setting with people that have addiction or trauma related substance abuse.
Boundaries with people in addiction are complicated
Here are some things to consider:
Guilt will drive your decisions until you learn the value of healthy boundaries, which provide a structure for healing.
Maybe you don't have the facts you need to set effective boundaries.
Too many people may be giving you unsolicited advice to a situation they have no clue about and it's contradicting and confusing.
What works for some, may not work for you
There are no blanket solutions
Language matters, maybe a simple tweak in wording can change the outcome dramatically
How do you know what to do when:
Your loved one gets arrested?
They are hinting at suicide? Or flat out telling you they are going to kill themselves?
You start seeing money missing from your wallet? Or you are much further along in them stealing from you and all your tools, TV, Jewelry, etc are gone?
You know they are lying to you, but you have no evidence?
They can't seem to really hear anything you are saying to them?
You're in a vicious cycle of things getting better then things getting worse again?
You get so sick and tired of having to stop everything you're doing to go clean up their mess?
They have wrecked yet another car you bought them so they could get to and from work?
They say they are going to work, but they never seem to have money?
Your boundaries seem to be constantly getting stomped on?
They are in the hospital for the THIRD freaking overdose, as if one wasn't enough to wake them up.
We aren't taught how to deal with this stuff...until now
Watch this video to see to learn even more about the program and what it will do for you
Save yourself years of frustration, time, and money in a few short weeks.
Addiction is like being in a foreign country
Addiction (or trauma related substance abuse) operates under a different set of rules, but the rules are predictable if you know the language and how it operates. But you need a guide, a road map so to speak. The boundary setting program does just that. It gives you the road map to setting effective boundaries that work!
It also goes into details about WHY certain boundaries don't work and what you have to do to ensure success. There is so much to setting effective boundaries.
*Please note: It may take up to 24 hours to receive the program upon payment.
WANT TO HEAR FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE THROUGH THE PROGRAM AND WHAT HER BIG INSIGHTS WERE? LISTEN TO THIS PODCAST INTERVIEW.
Setting effective boundaries is essential to their well being and yours.
How do you set clear expectations?
How do you know what to expect from a seemingly unpredictable world?
Why do you keep ending up breaking your own rules?
How do you love them unconditionally and support them, without crossing the line into enabling?
The program answers all these questions and more
Outline of the program
This program is a five week program. Each week goes through the principles you have to know in order to set effective, unbreakable boundaries. Once you sign up, you will be sent an email within 24 hours with the link and password to your program. You will then be sent an email each week notifying you when the next section is available. I do this to give you time to digest the material and not overwhelm yourself with information. Below is a summary of each week.
Overview of the program
This first video goes through the overview of the program and some key factors into why boundaries sometimes don't work and what you need to think about as you are setting your boundaries. There are a lot of things to work on first before actually setting boundaries.
There are simply areas where we don't know what we don't know. Addiction is something we don't automatically understand. There are places where we can find ourselves in denial, it's important to know how to break free from denial so we can set effective boundaries by having more of the facts.
Assess your Situation
Most people with substance abuse have trauma. How do you handle that? What are some financial considerations? What are some of the patterns you are witnessing in them? When you try to tell them something, do they misinterpret what you are saying? Do they seem to get angry every time you try to talk to them? How can you pierce through their drug/alcohol haze and reach them? This section focuses on how to get them to respond differently.
Commit to yourself
Boundaries are a commitment. They can make you feel uncomfortable sometimes, but how can you commit to being uncomfortable when you know you are doing the right thing? This section goes through how to commit to yourself and to them free of guilt and shame. We are not doing anything TO them, we are doing everything FOR them.
This section goes through how to limit reactive boundaries and how to set proactive boundaries with clear expectations and guidelines for your loved one. Language is important, we go through how to language boundaries and formulate solid, effective, unbreakable boundaries.
Tough love is essential, but it doesn't mean you have to be tough on them. It means you will have to make decisions that are tough to do. But you are making those decisions out of love, compassion, and faith. Showing love is action oriented. They need to know you believe in them and that you are there for them no matter what, but you will not enable their poor behaviors. You are showing love for yourself and for them. I don't know of any parent that wants to turn their back on their own child, and you don't have to.
*Please note: It may take up to 24 hours to receive the program upon payment.
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Frequently asked questions
What is the price of this program?
The cost is only $119. That works out to less than $25 a week. I wanted to make something really affordable for everyone that would make the quickest changes to your situation. This is save you hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars in the future.
Is this the only service you provide?
No, but this is where I start people because it builds out our foundation of working together.
I've tried other online programs and have a hard time getting through them. Is there anything else you can do with me?
Yes! You are not the only one that has ever had a hard time with keeping up with the online program model. I offer the ability to go through this program with me as a way to help you stay on top of it. PLUS, you get the benefit of me helping you with YOUR situation and answering any questions you may have during the program. You also get more attention to making sure you are keeping up with your goals and intentions. You can schedule a call with me or email me at Jennifer@ManeelyConsulting.com to learn more.
I want to go through this program, but I would prefer to talk to you first about it. Can I do that?
Absolutely, I understand sometimes people just need to talk to a human. Please feel free to schedule a call with me or even email me at Jennifer@ManeelyConsulting.com
What makes this different than the other things out there?
I've done extensive research into the field, the focus for helping families has been about educating families about addiction, which is necessary BUT not a lot of focus on what the families can actually do about it. This program focuses on YOUR action steps and strategies.
I am busy, I don't have a lot of time, how much time is this going to take?
Less than an hour a week. I've spent so much research and time to learn how to deliver and condense the information in an effecient way. The problem with a lot of people is as much as they want to help their loved one, they have a hard time dedicating the time it takes to do so. That's why I've put all the information you need to know in this one program that takes less than an hour a week. Invest a little bit of time into this program to save you hundreds of hours in the future.
Is this confidential?
Absolutely! People often don't want anyone knowing what is going on in their lives. That's why I've provided a way for people to go through this program on their own. Confidentiality is the biggest service I provide. Even people that work one-on-one with me, my clients privacy is my #1 Priority.
I see this is mainly geared towards parents and grandparents, but I am dealing with a spouse. Do you have anything for that kind of situation?
I do not have an online program yet specifically for dealing with a spouse, however, the principles are the same, but communication and situations may be different. My recommendation would be to reach out and have me go through this program with you and help you one-on-one. Even if you chose to go through this program on your own, you will still get what you needed in terms of learning how to set boundaries.
Are you going to tell me what boundaries I have to set? I'm kind of tired of people doing that.
NOPE! I'm going to help you formulate the boundaries you feel good about. They are YOUR boundaries. There are no blanket solutions, but there are important principles to understand about addiction that will help you understand why certain boundaries are in their best interest and yours. Remember, we are not doing anything TO them, we are doing everything FOR them.
Is this just more of someone telling me I have to show "Tough Love"?
Yes and no, my definition of tough love is having to sometimes make decisions that are tough to do BECAUSE you love them. It is not about being tough on them.